Originally Posted By: WAW_SC
HEy PF,

I have been reading through your sitch. Sounds like you are doing okay with the ocassional backslides. I dont know exactly how its all going, but I find that the times I have backslid and I think back to myself and say " i should have taken michelle's advice and DONE NOTHING" Sometimes doing nothing is the best thing to do...take some time and think it through rather than act.

It does sound like W is on edge, but how you work through this will be your challenge. I think being able to walk away but maintain all your love and respect for the other person is the key. Dont walk away in anger...thats the wrong way to do it.

Also, it totally spins me out when i read about couples who are " seperated" but living in the same house and ML. How does that work?
I would walk the earth just to sleep next to my W....To quote the amazing Jeff Buckley "all my riches for her smiles when i slept so soft against her"

I know it doesnt seem like its the best scenario, just be grateful that you get to be with the woman you love. Good luck and keep posting.


WAW, you are correct on everything you have said. Can't remember where, but the bible has a phrase that says that man has harnessed everything on the planet, yet still cannot control his own tongue. I need to figure out when it is wise not to speak, when it is a good time to do so and what to say when i do.

I AM fortunate to have my wife still in the same home as I am. Our family still resides together. I need to refocus on what is positive in my life and not the negative. I know there must be many who would give anything to have their spouse back home. I am very fortunate to have that.

My wife and I did separate for 4 months. We were in separate BRs. We are now back in the same bed. The distance between us is emotional. We had been like two sailing warships sitting broadside, hitting each other with canon fire. I stopped returning fire about 4 months ago with an occasional backslide. However, I take hits from her still on an almost daily basis.

I don't know if this is good or bad. She still expresses anger at me over things I did which I ended over the summer. At least she's communicating, but if forgiveness ever eventually will come, it appears to be a LONG way off.

Just set a date with a friend to go shooting on Wednesday. smile GAL!