Sorry your here 2.4. I believe your w is relying on her feelings prior to taking the AD. If she isn't aware of what's causing the depression, and the mlcer isn't, they believe the spouse is the cause. So, now they take the AD and the baseline they work off of is that spouse is my problem.

As far as her pushing for D. Do the best job you can of dbing and let her do the work if she wants the D.

M - 42
W- 37
S's - 9,6
M-12
T-14
FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011
ILYBNILWY - march '12
FIL - died jan '13
W Moved out week later