It's ok to be hurt. It's not ok to be resentful or stay angry. See how that works?
Spot on with this. I am learning to keep my hurt and pain to myself and not release it as anger or resentment. I am in part responsible for how i ended up here and I wont make any gains by continually looking back.
I look back on so many situations and think to myself "could I have handled that better?" My answer is YES in most cases and this is the motivation to make the changes i need to make to enable me to handle the challenges ahead of me in a calm, rational, compassionate and respectful way. I think this skill can be applied in every aspect of life so its definitely worth learning.
Its so easy to just focus on the negatives, i am guilty of this but I am learning to stop those thoughts with more success. When i find myself locking into the crap stuff in all this i just think of my boys smiling faces and the joy and fun that their "NEW" dad is bringing to them whenever i spend time with them. It reminds of all the positive things in life and tells me I am on the right track regardless of the outcome.
Thanks for the encouragement AJM.
Me - 37 W - 37 M -5 T - 15
S=5 S=3
Seperated - 12/12 BD - 20/03/13 Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.
