DBing, European style

[Papa4Life]

Friday lived up to the stereotype, unfortunately. W and I went to MC, who had agreed in IC with me that we would focus at least a portion of the discussion on the major drawbacks to D. Instead, she decided to remain what she termed "impartial," which apparently in her lexiconography means "tell (me) again that you want a D, tell him why yet again, and maybe it's a good idea to tell the kids about D tonight so they'll have the weekend to process it." And I'm PAYING for this. Money well spent.

Then we talked to our financial advisor who made it clear to me that, even though I'm with the kids more often and W will probably be required to pay palimony (stings the male ego a bit despite the fact that I'm a feminist, but it's up to the judge and the laws of NL, which I have no control over), regardless, I won't be able to take over the mortgage because I haven't had a 'job' (gainful self-employment doesn't count, don'tcha know) for at least three years. Which means I'll have to move to my own place.

And to top it all off, went out with BIL to "relax" and ended up listening to him try to convince me to just accept the D and "get on with my life for the benefit of the kids." Dope. Maybe I'm crazy, but looking two three year olds in the eye and telling them that mama and papa don't love each other any more doesn't exactly strike me as 'beneficial'.

And I'm like you, I'm quite the bobcat in the sack myself, so she doesn't know what she's gonna be missing . For them it's just the dream of the BBD: the bigger and better deal. Good luck with that.