But from my own experience, the MLCer rarely risks dropping the bomb until their A is on more solid ground.
But i suppose in cases like mine the BD happens because it was discovered not confessed. but same theory applies, because had W met OM and it became more solid then BD would have happened anyway. I will never know if discovering EA was a good or bad thing, I personally think I should have not let W know what I had seen and sat back for a bit. If only we all knew DB before its needed!
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.