I saw her there because I was suddenly hit with the realization that I'm alone again. I just wondered what the POF crop was like as I hadn't been there in 14 months. I had no intention or contacting anyone, just reassuring myself that there was a life after this if I ever wanted it lol. And yes, she absolutely has the right to do whatever she pleases, never said she didn't. I also have the right to think what she's doing is stupid and harmful. I also have the right to feel hurt by her actions, I feel what I feel. What I do with those feelings is what matters. I've known her long enough to know this is not a great choice. She needs to get her life in order. You can't build a relationship when your life is a constant cesspool of stress! She needs to re-connect with some of her women friends and get back into her church life. She needs to work on her dependence and control issues (she said "I'm like a bloodsucker. I've sucked you dry!") FWIW, that's my opinion. As for me, I've been doing the dating thing for almost two years, 14 months with SDA Lady and I need a break. I want to look at other areas of my life, work on some of my issues that contributed to what happened in this relationship and strengthen my relationship with God. I want to be more comfortable and confident in being myself before reaching out to someone else again...if that makes sense. I'm hurting right now and trying to deal with it. On the plus side, it was so incredible to love and feel loved again. To hold someone special in my arms and to know she felt the same way was awesome. But, tomorrow will bring what tomorrow will bring. Thanks for your thoughts kml.
