((((((NLW)))))) I can only echo the others on going dark. Even if he calls the kids and then asks to speak to you, IMO I would go dark. When he calls the kids, get yourself busy so no one has to lie... jump in the shower, take the garbage out, go to the bathroom....whatever. Don't be available.

If he wants to reach out in a positive way, he will find a way to do that.

Take care of YOU now. And I liked IO's idea about the throwaway phone. Try not to need him for anything.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home