I had not said a word about ow in 3 weeks. 2 of those weeks H was with his folks. Yesterday and the day before he was busy texting away. Per our agreement, per HIS letter, I am supposed to be privy to their communications.
Well I HATE asking about her, but the blatant texting was more than I could ignore, so I asked who he was texting. He told me who, and "read" me her texts. (I have not asked to see them. Again, I don't feel I should have to "ask".)
But I'm fully ruffled at this point. And H has picked up on my mood so I get the "What's wrong?"
Why does he ask me that?? WTF does he THINK is wrong with me?
And I don't want to discuss anything with him so I just murmur something about a headache...
I really want to go "Julia Sugarbaker" (from Designing Women) on him...
This is obviously a sign that I need to change something in my world. Time to find a good distraction ie 180, GAL etc.
But seriously, WHY DOES HE ASK ME WHAT'S WRONG? How can he not at the very least have a clue? And its obvious he doesn't really care or he wouldn't continue with his hurtful behavior...
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
