I am definitely in it to save my marriage, more importantly my family. The PA is a meaningless act and an escape for her. Not that it doesnt hurt. I actually spoke to a divorce busting coach and received some tips and am trying to follow them. I actually spent a lot of time with WW over the last few days because of things with kids. We went to lunch by ourselves and had a pleasant time. Trying very hard to be positive around her and not a downer. Its back to the point where she trusts to be around me without me coercing her to come home. Here is where I am really struggling. My WW does not have a job and has been unsuccesful finding a job to meet her needs. So basically Im supporting her at this point. She did have a job for a few days and that check will pay her rent and things. But im paying for her gas, and whatever little things. I also pay for her cell phone through my business, and she has the new vehicle that she was going to make the payments on but I am going to have to. The coach recommended I continue to support her in these things, because if I was to quit would probably push her away. I feel l like Im making her affair way to easy on her. For example, in her sisters house, where she is staying, the air conditioner went out. She asked me Friday night if we had any money for a window ac unit and if I would put it in for her. Which i did because I look at it as an oppurtunity to be around her and be positive, which I was. But she still looks to me for those type of needs. Wouldnt I be better cutting her off making her face a little reality, and yes push her away at first, but at that same time breaking her out of her fantasy world?
