I just started to get a really bad feeling about meeting him on Tuesday. I figure he's going to tell me that he's taking me to court over the kids.
No other reason that I can think of for him to want to meet me. Nothing to discuss.
I got D17 to ring him one more time tonight to tell him that she needed her phone because she is on call for work tomorrow. He listened to her and then said he'd consider and that he'd ring back later.
Two hours later he called and made her apologise again. Then he insisted that she say "I will never be rude to you again".
I heard her say "I can't really promise that - I will try not to be, but I can't promise something like that; I can't see into the future".
He insisted and she said the words.
He then came over with OW in the car and dropped off her phone after 4 days of 'holding it hostage' (as she described it). He stopped for all of 30 secs, telling the kids he was "in a hurry".
Re your point: "There is no rule you need to continue to communicate with him"
That made me think. I feel like i have some sort of 'duty' to communicate with him. But why?
I think I believe that others (his parents, my kids, the legal system) all expect/require me to do so. That I will not be doing 'the right thing' if i refuse to speak to him.
And, really, nobody knows the trouble I've seen (!) with him except me, so by refusing to communicate, i come across as more of the 'cow' that he depicts me as.
