X demands full custody because I'm engaged, Part 2

[sleeper]

Because we have "joint shared custody" either one of us could go "pick up our kids" BUT that's why there is a custody schedule (week on/week off) to prevent the children from being yanked back and forth like a yoyo. The problem is ONE of the parents now refuses to comply with the schedule in addition to estranging the children from me by telling them (and coercing DS IMHO) that they do not have to go their father's if they don't want to.

X slipped up in a text since my last post and texted one reason she wanted DS to stay with her tonight was because she wants to take him to church in the AM. Her "WANT" is the actual reason for this entire situation. Her actions have nothing to do with what is best for the children.

Here's a kick in the stomach. I texted DS earlier and learned he's spending the night with a friend. That's right, she is keeping him from me on what is legally my time and sending him on a sleepover with a friend. DD is babysitting. Makes sense to me because I believe X and OMH are at a concert because she mentioned it the other night.

I guess I could go to sleepover house and get my son but I'd have to bring the police as I don't know the hosts and they don't know me. Possibility for high drama and I'd come off looking as the crazy one (DS embarrassed, host parents and host child traumatized etc.). I'm literally sick to my stomach but feel I'm doing the right thing.

[SunFunOne]

Sleeper:
Document. Keep track of everything. The whole thing is a nightmare but try to keep the drama out of it. I'm guessing your son enjoyed the sleepover & your daughter wanted the babysitting $. Best not to disrupt that for their sakes.

Is your ex wrong? Absolutely. But best to deal with the lawyer & judge - not to make yourself the bad guy in front of the kids.

Barb

[sleeper]

I realized this AM you can take a pic of your text messages if you are using an IPhone. Lawyer said to to your account online (AT&T) and print out your call record to verify whom the texting was between (documents phone numbers, not names of nicknames in contacts on phone).

[figgeroni]

yup...we google doc all of Cori's ex's messages so they automatically get saved and backed up in case his phone gets wiped etc.

[SunFunOne]

Wow - who knew? I'd better figure out how to do this. I have some whacko messages from my Ex too.

Barb

[sleeper]

Just talked to DS. He's still at the friend's house he went to on a sleepover last night. X has not picked him up and DID NOT take him to church this AM (the reason she "wanted" to keep him.

Documenting.

[sleeper]

I'm two days into the third week without my kids. I usually have them every other week. Previously it was my normal pattern to be a little down a day or so into the week they were with X (the silence) but this is worse.

[kat727]

Keep documenting everything so you can present it to the L. She certainly is one messed up cookie!

[sleeper]

I'm seeing them but they're not sleeping at my place anymore. Weirdness: X included a spot for me when she made reservations (info came to her house) at DD's invitation to "students of the year dinner" this Thursday for students in our school district.

L said 4-6 weeks wait for hearing.

[sleeper]

Just found out L has not taken any action or done anything yet. Could be misunderstanding cause I remember telling him to, could be he was too busy preparing for other case that was supposed to go to trial this week (it's been postponed). Am taking Friday off to get ball rolling. I thought it already was.

Therapy appointment tomorrow (even my son says, "they dont do anything").

I'm going anyway. Fiancé may join me.