is standing more taboo than divorce?

[grebjack]

On the wall next to me is a certificate from my wedding day. Our vows are at the top, then our signatures, then the signatures of all the guests who came to our wedding and had their own "I do" moment where they committed to supporting our marriage. (It's a Quaker thing.) I kinda thought the purpose of marrying publicly was to engage the social institution in protecting the couple.

But now, for the first time in my years-long DBing journey, I have met someone who is an attractive alternative to my beautiful husband. I feel excited and confused and affirmed and sinful all at once. I have discussed it with my three best friends, my pastor, and the morally conservative (I would say fundamentalist) crew of my DivorceCare group. Without exception, their response has been, "go for it," "life is short." I am grateful to these people who only want my happiness, but I wonder who is supposed to tell me "you're married," "you made a commitment."

One of my friends told me, protectively, "make sure he's divorced first." I hope he has friends giving him the same warning about me, 'cause I think I'm dangerous.