In my experience , he will threaten to go the court route and then, even if i do what he wants, we end up in court anyway.
It's a no-winner.
Same pattern with D17. He said she could have her phone back when she apologised. She did and it sounded sincere, but immediately the game changed. Then what she had to do was put me on the phone so he could berate me about what a bad parent I was to allow her to be so rude to him.
He still won't give her the phone.
I don't think that comm with him is of any benefit to anyone. I will do this next face-to-face with him in order mainly to gather info and test my own skills at not being baited. Then i think it's pretty much over unless he can show any change. Dim hasn't worked. Dark needs to be tried. This is just bad for all of us.
Thanks for staying with me while i worked this out for myself the hard way.
