NLW, my W still continues to tell me that I should do this or that or that the kids should do this or that because "it's in the best interest of the kids".
It's a double bind because they know we want the best for the kids.
He very much appears to be trying to suggest that YOU are wrong and are doing something wrong.
Do understand that he is possibly not doing this intentionally, but as an act, it is to manipulate and control you and the kids.
Again, in my case, I no longer respond to any of these types of comm from my W.
Personally, I think you really need to go dark and not respond to him.
He also used the whole court thing to manipulate you, and it worked. Rather than allow him to take you to court so the court would settle this all, and from where I sit I think you have a very good position, you backed down and contacted him to prevent court.
Do what you believe is best for you and your kids. I don't think that comm with him and his spew and venom are best for you and your kids.
