B, hugs to you too. Thank you so much for stopping by. It means a lot to me
T^2, yes I thought the quote was bang on. I wish sending it would make a dent but logic seems to fly out the window with these folks. Mine even has a counsellor. I would give an eye tooth to listen in on those sessions out of sheer curiosity. T, I have been following along and think you are doing so well. Your patience and understanding is amazing. Thank you for stopping by.
Snodderly, I know. Thank you for reminding me. I wrote it out because I needed to see it in black and white. I find I think I have always had in the back of my head that no matter what this MLC throws at us, it would eventually be over. I no longer believe that. If he retains even half of what he believes and the expectations that he is pinning on the illusion of the white picket fence, then our life goals are no longer even compatible. Like the MLCer who trades his responsibilities for supposed freedom, our values would no longer be compatible. I am still working on accepting this as well. Lots of layers. I am going to enjoy my life. It may not be what I planned but I am not afraid of the future.
[quote=mizjjd] I think what you're saying - if I heard you correctly - is its the apparent "core" changes that are the hardest to deal with.
I get that. Its my H telling me he never loved me, more than the idea that he's not in love with me right now. I mean, its one thing to take the future I thought I "had", but MLC even tries to take my past.
And then to top it off, to have no empathy for how H's sentiments affect me. [\quote]
MizJ, this was nicely said. Not only do they unilaterally decide to make these huge changes which affect us but somehow think that regulating us to less important than a bank teller seems to the result. And to try to accept that the person I knew - the one with whom I planned adventures and a life - may be gone forever is hard. But accept we must. Especially when there has been absolutely no progress or movement toward me at all. Only movement back to the GF. That is where his effort is focused.
I sent a short text on Friday. I guess I just wanted to put the ball firmly in his court. I hated thinking that our R conversation would be our last. It likely would not have been, as Snodderly says, but that was my (non) logic.
He replied a whole day later. It did not make me happy or sad. Too much reality at this point.
May everyone have a good weekend and thank you all for dropping by. It means a great deal to me that there is someone listening to my rambles.
