Kaf, Your response gave me so much strength. STBX makes me feel like I am the crazy one, so it's good to hear what others think.
After years of trying, I know that nothing I or the kids say will help him see it any other way than his own.
As you can see from my previous post to JBolt, I did reply, offering to let him talk to me. My idea is just to listen and tell him I've heard him (one of his major issues with me).
Anyway, he replied as follows: Hi W,
I would prefer to meet as you rarely answer my calls or return them. Can you supply me with some times that you would be available?
Thank you
Looks like he still wants to see me (hope he doesn't bring a weapon - only mildly joking....)
But at least I may be able to convince him to give me D17's phone back. She needs it for work tomorrow.
So, looks like I am in for a real test of my listening, validating and boundary setting abilities today.
