I can tell you that when my W and I were at this point I was telling myself that I only wanted to work on it if she did. It took talking with my IC and reading DB to realize that I wanted to work on the R (and really myself) independent of whether she did or not. Everyone's different, but I wouldn't let his outlook color what you would like to do. After all, he may change his mind. It hasn't been that long.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012