hey kiel, you ask about duration... there is no... typical duration, in any of this. Still, if you want an idea, using a broad enough data set over the time that people have been looking close at this kind of stuff, you may look at 1 to 3 years if WAS and perhaps 3 to 7 years if MLC. Yet, that is not fair to use that info as some M's never have the WAS reconsider (obviously) and someone in MLC may never "return".
On detachment, I don't have the doc or link handy, hopefully someone else can post it on your thread. You might be misunderstanding detachment. Detachment does not mean remove yourself from the M and move on. In this context, it is more about removing your emotional attachment from the words or acts of your H and possible outcomes of the sitch. We sometimes call it "getting off the emotional roller coaster". We can still stand for our M, even if we are detached.
