This is so hard on the kids and the WAH just doesn't get it! It's so selfish.
D18 is marching in a parade today so D15 and I went to watch her. I didn't know H was going to be there to until we were on our way. I stopped and got donut holes to snack on and bought one of H's favorite donuts too. Because I'm being nice and friendly, right?!!
D15 gets really upset with me and when we get back in the car she yells 'why are you being so nice to him? He's the one that f*cked everything up!' I just empathized and told her I understand how much it hurts. And I left the stinking donut in the car.
Met H at parade and we joked and had a good time like we used to. Our sense of humor had always clicked and we can have fun when we want to. Then d15 gets upset with me again and whispers in my ear to stop talking to him. I know this is an issue between D15 and her dad and I'm not taking it personally. But it's hard to be the only one on the receiving end of all the teenage anger.
Just a frustrating transition that H will likely never comprehend. I think more likely he feels helpless to repair things with D15 or his family so he just acts like everything is okay. It's hard to imagine forgiving this lack of effort.
Then after the parade I go get a manicure and listen to a dating couple's conversation. They sounded awkward too and didn't seem too comfortable with each other. All they talked about was each of their own kids. Just a strange observation because my H has expressed that's all we have is our kids and I see, that's all other people have too, isn't it?
Now I'm feeling down. Just another day to get through.
