One month ago my H informed me he wanted to leave me/divorce me. Said he loved me but was no longer in love me--last time he was in love with me was 20 years ago when we were in college (though we've been married only 9 years). Have 2 kids (youngest is 7 months old). H said he wants a wife who is more loving,feminine, caring. I do admit there are things I could have done differently. A lot of times I tried to avoid him because of his quick temper due to stress from his job. He says he is tired of doing everything for me, that I'm selfish, that I just used him as a sperm donor. He says he wants to fall in love again and have sex with younger, hot women. We haven't really had sex for sex's sake for maybe 2-3 years (was trying to have 2nd child, which I pressured H into having), hadn't had many date nights last few years, arguing about my in-laws living with us, haven't spent a lot of time just the two of us. I've tried spending more time with him lately (waiting for him to come home, which is usually late at night because of his job) and he seems to enjoy it, but keeps on saying that, whatever i do, he won't change his mind and that he will leave me. Has already started looking for an apartment for himself. Any hope for me? What can I do at this point? We've had sex a couple of times this past month, but most nights he says he just wants to watch porn and masturbate and has no interest in me sexually. Thanks.
