Time, Space and Proof

[moth76]

Really hoping to get some advice about my sitch. W and I had one conversation before we S as far as seeing other people. Obviously she had been in EA possible PA, but I brought it up at that time because my main concern has been not wanting the OM to be freely spending time with my S. He isn't a part of my family and I feel that it is inappropriate for W to be having him around our kid.

The thing is this: I understand that there is nothing I can or even should do as far as my W having an A. I have accepted that and know that she has to sort that out. But I don't accept OM being around my boy. I would like to set some kind of boundary about it with W. My concern is that ultimately she can do what she wants anyway, and I don't want to start a useless fight. I just feel strongly about the issue. How can I approach the topic ina non-aggressive way but still be firm?

I really need to hear from others who have dealt with this.