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Hey T, I'm sorry that you are hurt.

I wouldn't worry about whether your feelings will fade or not, ya know? You've got enough to worry about.

He is not liking this at all. He's thinking, what the heck is up with T? LOL!

You just keep moving forward. If he ever moves towards you, he will just have to catch up.

Enjoy those boys! Ah, transformers, I remember playing them with my son. wink

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Thanks UW smile I'm sorry I hurt too. I'm sorry so many good people are hurting because of this.

I do love my life, except for the pain that he brings. It is sad that he can't see what is right in front of his eyes.

I have noticed something else... It seems like time is going by faster and faster. I swear the minutes dragged in the very beginning, I took the start of each new month as a huge milestone for me. But now, it seems like I blink an eye, and it's a new season.

Glad for being so tired tonight, will fall asleep without worrying about him.

Maybe I could get Optimus Prime or Bumblebee to crash their romantic getaway?

Waiting, thanks for stopping by. Will write more to ya when I'm not so stinkin tired!

Goodnight everyone smile


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It is sad that he cant see what he is doing.

And I know that although you know he is in crisis, there is still such pain.

You are so very special, T. I hurt for you.

You do not really know what is going on so please try not to let them into your head, ok?

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Love you TVS!!!! Big HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are a good person.


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Originally Posted By: Takevowsserious
I feel like each day that passes with all of this and each time I get hurt, my heart hardens just a little bit more towards H. I lose a little bit more respect for him. My feelings fade just a little bit more too.

Do feelings just fade till there is nothing left? I don't know...


TVS, that is exactly how I feel. Just when I think that I can get over something he does something else that hurts. But it hurts a little less and I am beginning to be able to brush it off that much more.

Hugs and enjoy your weekend!

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WE ALL LOVE YOU TVS ((((((TVS)))))))).

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Thank you everyone! I loved reading all of your encouraging and kind words first things this morning. Love you guys smile

Being hurt is hard. But it's not gonna kill me.

Portia, I was thinking that no matter how strong we think we are, or how prepared we think we are to deal with them, we still end up being hurt. I don't think it's a sign of weakness though - I see it as more of a testament to how big our hearts are.

And our feelings? Yes, they are definitely changing. And while they may be different from day to day, one thing is for sure... They are not the same as they once were for our MLCers.

UW, I found an old quote from you that I'd like to share -

"Sometimes life just throws you a huge curveball and you have no other choice but to try and swing."

Ummm... Could you be any more awesome?!?! smile

Well, ol' TVS was actually a decent athlete back in the day. And I damn well know how to hit a ball.

So I'm getting out my big bat, and am taking a big swing. And if I miss? Hey, I do get three strikes smile

Getting ready to go grocery shopping with the boys, which is so much fun... "He's touching me... He's pushing me... He's making a noise... He's looking at me..."

You know how it is!!!

But I'm excited about having my good friends over for dinner tonight. I'm making a yummy pasta dish, and they are bringing the wine. Holla!

Happy Saturday smile


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(((tvs))). Enjoy your time with those boys. 4 and 2 are great ages.

Autobots, roll out!


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Sometimes we think we are not strong, yet the reality is, we ARE.

Originally Posted By: Takevowsserious
Portia, I was thinking that no matter how strong we think we are, or how prepared we think we are to deal with them, we still end up being hurt. I don't think it's a sign of weakness though - I see it as more of a testament to how big our hearts are.


Where some think it might be a sign of weakness or worse... It takes STRENGTH and COURAGE to keep being vulnerable enough to allow ourselves to be hurt, over and over again. To allow ourselves to feel empathy and compassion in the eye of the storm and not shut down our emotions, completely. To embrace and own the consequences of the choices we make, not only to protect ourselves and our children, but to also protect our WAS / MLCers, even while they are in their worst.

THAT... is TRUE STRENGTH.

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T, you are so cool!

Most of my threads are gone frown unfortunately, but, I guess you've found a few. smile.

It is true, no matter how prepared you think you are for all this, you can never really be.

Wwhile I know this is not have you expected your life to go, but, life rarely goes as we expect it.

The way I see it is that we have a few choices. Throw down the bat, wait for a walk or swing as hard as we can.

All of them lead to a conclusion, but, I prefer to take my chances. smile

Go big or go home. LOL!

You will be forever changed regardless of how this all turns out.

But I have no doubt that either way, you will be ok.

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