After posting it, I went back and read what I had written. My thought was, if we both still want to ML (I think) then why has it been over a month. So I decided to try to change that last night. She came home after eating with a friend and I asked her to come over to me. I hugged her and yada yada yada we ML.
Now I am sure some on here will totally disagree with doing that. Pursuit! And to be honest, I am not sure it was the right thing to do. But, after reading what I posted earlier it seemed to me like I should try.
The down side (I guess) is that she still slept in the other room last night.
Any and all comments on this are welcomed. Thanks.
As long as you aren't feeling bad about the encounter afterwards and it's bringing you and your wife closer, then ML is the right thing to do. Michele has an article on this.
If your wife is receptive to your advances then you are on track, in my opinion.
The No Pursuing rule is there because the common tendency of most LBS's, (especially early on) is to over pursue, which drives their partner away. It doesn't mean we can't ever reach out and attempt to connect, (with sex or otherwise) but some seem to interpret it that way.
Continue to pay attention and do what works in your sitch.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
