Hey WFM, there seems to be a little less franticness today. Good!
You cannot choose for him. You cannot choose that he love you, come back, start again etc. You can, however, choose for you.
You are not choosing for you. I know you think "But I choose H". He has told you, he is not, at this point choosing you. So you let it go.
And Bond is right...give stuff a shot. Sometimes DB X will work and sometimes it won't. You have to try to figure this out. What works for me or Ad or Bond may or may not work for you. But the base is there for you to work with and you have lots of advice to pick through and take what is applicable to you.
There really is no answer, just more questions. But we call it life, whatever shape it takes.
