Wife is having an emotional affair

[Alan A.]

Remember, an A is a symptom, so there is some reason why she sought the OM. ie. Something she wasn't getting from you.

I thought this too but the thing is she says that the problem is with her, not me. I still feel like I must have had some part in it but I can't think of what it could possibly be and I doubt she will ever tell me.

Best for you to do is accept that it is happening and... if it is not a deal breaker for you... let it run it's course

I'm trying to figure out if I still want to try to work things out. At first I definitely wanted to but now I'm starting to feel like no matter what I do/don't do she is going to choose OM over me and I need to just start trying to move on.