Thank you, Adinva, for posting this. Sometes common sense escapes me.
now don't be to hard on yourself. I am the same. I think it's more a case that in these early stage out brains are working so hard to deal with it all and find some magic solution we forget the basics and the obvious.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.