Adding to what KD said, Snodderly has told me time and time again...if there is doubt, do nothing, sit quietly, wait...the answer will come...In my sitch, I decided early on that a PA would not necessarily be a deal breaker
Yes ^^^^^^
And tbh, I played the wait game for a long time... and every time something new came along, some new evidence or proof of A or deception / lies... I said to myself, "well... maybe this is not a deal breaker, I will wait..."
So, am I simply putting a concept together as a rationality that the A is a deal breaker for me, and I am moving on? Because if that's the case, I have not proved that with action, as I have not filed D...
Am I simply trying to be "right" and teach my W a lesson...?
Or...
Am I just denying the reality that...
My W simply does not want to be with me, and it hurts, so I hide behind a veil of me making a choice of an A being a deal breaker...
because, in the end... 3 years later... she still chooses not to re-engage the M... even though she herself, will not file D...
