I've never kept a journal before. Always thought it was kind of an excercise for an introvert. Don't feel that way anymore.
Adinva posted a bit of advice in WFM's thread talking about how we should be looking at the macroclimate of our spousal interactions. This hit home to me. I have been focusing on individual events and reacting to them. I have also kept no reliable record of these encounters.
My failure to accurately record these successes and failures has left me ineffective when it comes to learning what is working and what isn't.
I'm logging my feelings, my encounters, my responses and their effects on my wife each day now. Already, I can think of something I did that I know my wife would take issue with. Not a real agregious error, but it IS an indication of my failure to make a 180 from deep down within me instead of it only being on the surface.
I'll post about it later.
Thank you, Adinva, for posting this. Sometes common sense escapes me.
