Its all good- I was asking for myself. It "felt" early /soon for the both of you to have lawyers. Remember when I wrote about feeling like my wife and I were in a car racing towards a cliff.......Thats what the both of you already having lawyers felt like- To me.
I hope the meeting helped you to learn about the steps knowing about the process may help the anxiety of the unknown.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13