Kaffe.... Thank you for the advise... Much appreciated. It goes agianst my nature in alot of ways but I understand that is part of my problem and an area I can improve on.

Ill get the love language book, thanks for the suggestion.

My posts are delayed by quite a bit so you may see some posts come up with questions that you have already addressed. Sorry, not sure what the issue is.

Ill keep looking at the what more can I do as well.

Again thank you!