Adding to what KD said, Snodderly has told me time and time again...if there is doubt, do nothing, sit quietly, wait...the answer will come...In my sitch, I decided early on that a PA would not necessarily be a deal breaker, so I never confronted her (she knew I knew about the online stuff) when I saw questionable evidences...I guess God or whoever knew better than my ego and somehow helped me not accuse without positive evidence, to put it out of my mind that she might be, give me a warm blanket of plausible self-denial, lol, whatever...I never accused or brought it up, eventually all was revealed, I had nothing to do with it, she can't put any blame on me for anything there...it is all hers. This is huge in my sitch for keeping her moving towards reconciliation after blaming me everything wrong in the universe a year ago or so....
Two different boundaries, two different takes between KD and myself...your journey will be unique to you, as your W's will be for her...though there is lots of commonalities, as you will discover by reading a lot here, and elsewhere...this stuff appears to be scripted and beamed into their heads from the mothership orbiting the dark side of the moon...
Sorry if not too clear, quick post and gotta run... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
