Wife is having an emotional affair

[Alan A.]

I happened to see one of her texts to OM saying that she was "crazy head over heals" for him. and she talked about hanging out with him while I am in class today. This morning she has been getting all dressed up, she is even wearing a dress. She hasn't got dressed for me in a long time. Right after we got married she said well now I don't have to work to impress anyone anymore. She has said similar things a couple times since we have been married. I asked what she was going to do this morning and she said she was going to hang out with one of her female friends. I also found out that she wants to go to comic con (we have one in the area) with a group of friends on our anniversary and OM will be there. Before this thing started she said she wanted to go out of town somewhere with me. I wish I could understand whats going on. I've tried to have her explain a few things about what she is feeling and she always says I don't know.