Well yesterday went ok. I personally did well. Wife wanted me to linger in the bedroom and just hang around... I changed my clothes from work to play (so I can hang w/kids). She would ask me a few things with large gaps in talk, I went about myu buisiness, being polite, answering her questions, she is learning how to make these fancy cupcakes, She showed me pics, I made nothing but positive comments (because they are good and they look great). Didnt go overboard by any means but not criticism either. I got in, particvipated, got out, played with the kids for an hour or so outside, came back in, wife came and sat on the couch too, on the other end, but none the less she was there, she initiated small talk, I participated. No R talk, Kept myself upbeat.
We talked about what we were going to do for my oldest daughters bday this weekend, she is making cupcakes (of course!) I brought up a few suggestions for a gift and activities for her and her friends.... Wife brought up things about things about the kids in the future tense.... Something to the effect that the girls were going to cost US alot of money....because of the things they want etc...
Honestly I think we will be ok in the long run. That seems to be my challenge is that its a long run. Im a driven results kind of guy. I flew through the ranks at work because of this. Having to wait is my weakness. But how long is long enough? Is there compromise here or do I just roll with how she processes this and leave her alone?
