NP on the dronning... I figured you had to get that out...
Originally Posted By: CharlieBrown
Do you think I should at least ask if there is another man in the picture? I never thought to ask until last night.
What do you expect she will answer? She's been hiding it, so far... do you think that confronting her will suddenly have her cave and change her course? Perhaps, she will just keep lying about it...
And if she DOES tell you and also indicates that she will not change her course... does that affect your decision...?
And if so... why?
IOW, you have at least plausible proof that there is a strong EA and a possible PA in the making... Many of us never get admission or empathy through confrontation...
In the end, it is up to you. I only stated what I would do... now... maybe...
I confronted on multiple EAs and got denial regarding all of them, even with fairly solid "proof". At this time, I still want admission if we were to ever work things out. Maybe I will change my mind in the future, but I see and am working on a future that will not include my stbx in my life, for the foreseeable future.
Again, what you do is entirely up to you. All I am really saying is... consider what you want right now... if you never confronted and had admission. Would you carry on and hope to R? Or is it a deal breaker, even without admission...
Would you believe her if she told you that she really had no emotional attachment to this guy and wasn't planning on meeting him and possibly having a PA?
I figured you had to get that out... 
