Wife is having an emotional affair

[Alan A.]

Oh yeah, something I forgot to add previously, whenever she says she would try counseling I can tell she doesn't want to. So I asked her if she really wanted to go to counseling or if she was just saying that to try and make it hurt less for me. She just got really awkward and silent and I could tell the question made her uncomfortable so I told her she didn't have to answer now but to think about it. I feel like everything I do either has no results or makes things worse. I just don't know what to do.