''When you give too much importance to someone else in your life,
you loose ''your'' importance in their life.''

This helps explain acting "as if" for me, and helps me see there is some value to stepping back. I have been seeing it in my own H, and as Nero pointed out, maybe he is peeking in at what he would actually be leaving, or what he could return to.

Regardless, putting very little importance into what he needs these days has created a reversal of attitude on his part. He is reaching to me for answers, he is sleeping in our bed, he even admits he talks to himself so I can be aware of what's on his mind, maybe even create a conversation.

I have gotten to a point where I am pretty comfortable without him around me, and now that very act, has brought him closer crazy Asking him to find a new home, and live his life the crazy way he thinks would make him happy, made him dig his heals in and stay put.

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!