Almost two years and still stuck in limbo

[newman7977]

@Galbaby thank you so much for your continued support and understanding really appreciate it.

@GTO, thanks for chiming in. I can relate to your pain as well. You're right I have to GAL more with other people in addition to GALing with the kids. The only GAL I do now is on sat I road bike with a group and that helps. I do need to learn to cook another 180 for myself.

@semperfi, thanks I will follow your sitch as well hang in there.

@AS thanks and you're right if only I could detach better maybe limbo won't be so bad. But it's so hard to detach, there good and bad days on that department for me. And at this point I do want to get off this limbo.

Update on my sitch:
I want to be honest here and I recognize this is not very DBing of me. I found some evidence that my W is still talking to OM, not very solid but just enough.

Anyway, I just had it and contacted OM's W and expose the A. I felt she needed to know and based upon her reactions I know now first hand that OM is lying to my W. Next I contacted OM and I gave him a piece of my mind. I won't say the details here but you can just imagine that I didn't hold back. What is the purpose? I strongly feel that his W is entitled to know. He's been having it easy in both worlds he needs to re-think his actions. Second it was for my peace, now that I said what I had to say, I do feel like some of the burden was off my shoulders. I feel like I regain some of my confidence back. I wanted to convey to him that I'm not going away easily. At the end he said he won't contact my W--do I believe that I absolutely don't.

I did confront my W about what I found and her facial expression said one thing and her words another, she basically denied it. Then she puts it back on me that how I can not let this go blah blah blah. And I said to regain my trust she has to stop these things, stop disrespecting our kids and me. She denied again and said we're beyond that she has no feelings her words zero feelings for me.

Then I said then let's not pretend anymore. Lets separate and on our own path. She then said yes I will file for D, and I said you can but its expensive, we can separate and file later when we have money. She agreed. We're suppose to talk to the kids this weekend about it. So far she hasn't mention anything. I ask her if she talked to her mom about living there and she hasn't.

So what's next? I was reading in infidelity forum and just read starsky's post about Gucci/robx. I tend to agree on that and time to let go my W. I also just bought Dobson's tough love.

Anyone know if Gucci loafer and robx still on the boards? What's your take on their posts?

Thanks all. We'll see how it goes this weekend.

Newman