The good news is last summer the owner sold the company and I now work for great people. Still had long hours during transition, but nothing like before, and even before the sale my stress level was better and I was able to refocus on the family more.
Problem was, obviously lots of damage was done. She was VERY supportive of me during that time, but for a year, I thought I was going to be fired anyday and dialed back our spending a lot to build up a rainy day fund. One thing that was cut back was our 15th anniversary unfortunately. We had always talked about going to Italy and all her friends got really nice rings or other jewelry. My gift was lame and I took her to a spa for the weekend. The stupid flower shop even screwed up and didn't deliver her roses, even though I ordered them, which made it look like I forgot to mark the day. She was so dissapointed it took her 3 months before she said anything. I was really sorry and heartbroken to hear that and made up for it with our 16th last fall, with a cruise, South Beach, and a beatiful diamond ring I put a lot of thought into and custom designed. She seemed really happy all fall and into December.
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
