I think I stumbled upon something bad. I was going through my wife and my phone bill and I noticed a recurring phone number. This person has called my wife several times (even several times a day)and they talked for up to 2 hrs. Including midnight calls. I'm devastated at what seems to be obvious.
My W did this too, but it wasn't an OM, it was an enabler friend of hers that was going through a D. WAS's often pick up an enabler or two to help them "decide" what to do.
An EA is an interesting animal. Where a PA, the description obviously points to an actual, physically intimate situation, an EA almost seems benign. Yet, an EA is really an emotionally intimate relationship, which excludes the LBS. As such, it is my opinion that an EA can occur with anyone, regardless of sexual orientation.
That said, to point back to your first post JRG, where you indicate that your W said her love tank was destroyed, that is script. Because she certainly CAN love others, just does not want to (admit to) love(ng) you. That both svcks and hurts. Most LBS here know that feeling.
So having said that, what you really want to do is detach yourself as much as possible. Detaching is very specifically removing your emotional attachment (and expectations) from what your W says and does.
