LRT - Dealing with WAW Affair

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Thanks for the directions to the other threads. I started reading Needgrace already... very similar and helpful. I think need to look into the MLC information a little more too.

WAW is staying with her older brother about 4 hours away so DBing in person is few and far between. She did come to town a couple of days ago for two doc appts and I needed to trade cars with her b/c after her appts she was headed to the beach w/ inlaws. I met her at the house. She looked awful. It's been a few weeks since we saw each other. She has fired last week for just not doing her job. I assume this is an effect of her depression. She has gained weight, wasn't showered, no make up. I have been GAL forcing and was wearing new clothes (dropped a size...stress) had my hair done last week and started tanning for the season(I live at the beach). It's a stark comparison from a year ago when she was 30lbs lighter, buying new clothes, and in full-force trying to impress her AP and surfing in the "FOG" and I was a crying, begging, blubbering mess.

I was proud of myself. I pulled up with a smile, started getting things out of the car, did not approach her for physical affection which until last week was my usual M.O. I asked her how her drive was and greeted my dog. She walked over and initiated a hug. She held long and tight, I did not and I realesed first on purpose. We went into the house, she commented how good everything looked (I am trying to take care of my surroundings to keep my mood lighter and keep me busy) I thanked her for saying so and asked when she was coming back for the dog. She said Saturday. I smiled from across the room and said I had lunch plans with a work collegue, have a safe trip, see you later and left. I did not ask about AP, where she's been, what she's been up to. Nothing. For me that's not a 180... it's another planet.

I'm nervous about her return tomorrow. I'm afraid she's going to ask to stay at the house rather than keep driving another 4 hours to her brother's. What should I say? Yes?, No?, Yes - I put clean sheets int he guest rooms last week? I would normally be home and working in the yard or practicing my guitar (a new GAL hobby of mine). Should I make sure I'm not there when she arrives and blow in later? It's confusing because I physically see her so rarely since the S in Feb.