Not confused...trying to move forward...

[BRNR]

Snodderly/Portia - Thanks for confirming that I have done the right thing. I am trying to learn to stick up for myself and my children and I have let him railroad and bully me too long.

I will say, that I do not EVER talk about OW unless he brings her up. Nor did I mention my suspicions of what I thought he was doing. And really, I don't care what he is doing, but I am not going to re-arrange my life so he can do it.

I have let him slide, and I guess passively that was able to give me the opportunity to re-instate our original agreement.

So this morning, Mr. Attitude showed up. I was nice and sweet this morning like the conversation never happened told him Good Morning, "let" him come in because it was raining. I would have told him to have a good day, but as soon as he came in the house, he started bullying the kids to to get their stuff, get in the car, trying to rush them out the door.

I do say, I hate when our MLC's think they have been wronged, have the sense of entitlement, and act childish. And to further the matters, why doesn't he realize that things will get worse for him if he pushes my buttons too far.

I have evaluated my situation, and Portia you are right, look at all the things I have...including the upper hand to some degree in this sitch with H. Only because the reality world will favor me all the way through to divorce and the fantasy world will let him down. In a lot more other ways than OW.

I do hope he comes down to reality soon, but I have no expectations that this will happen.

So taking it day by day. At this time, I feel comfortable enough to allow my H to run the show unless he takes it too far. And by too far, I mean anything dealing with the kids, money, or my life. And I have learned that killing him with kindness unless otherwise necessary is the path I am traveling.

Thank goodness it is the weekend. Contact will be limited to my son's soccer game this weekend and that is it.