I asked her yesterday if she is still carrying on affair and emotionally attached. She replied if she wanted to it would be, the OM is keen, but she feels she needs to resolve a lot of issues by herself before she considers any other relationship ad that this applies if we are to work on our R as well.
We had counselling via Skype with a contact in the UK on Weds, he was very good, incisive and we have booked another session next week. I think it will take awhile to cut through some of these issues. Have started book now and reading the theory at the start.
Have said it is up to her if she wants to go at the moment, her decision, I am not going to use threats over finances to push her out. I think I need to define this more carefully. If she is continuing the A then I would want her to move out, I am not sure would know as I am not prepared to snoop anymore (did in the beginning)
A db might help for me
Me 44 WAS 41 T 11 S 8 D 5 DB November 2012 EA and PA discovered December 2012 WAS moved out 4 May 2013 Share residence of S and D 50/50 WAS moves in with OM 1 September 2013.
