B, I agree w/Portia. The boundaries were set and you should not waiver on them. If he was suppose to have them home at 9:00 p.m., then that is the time he should bring them home. You were allowing him to slide and bring them home earlier...You were doing him a favor by allowing the earlier drop offs, not the other way around. As you can see, you allowed him to drop them off earlier one time and he continued to do so. The old saying "give them an inch and they'll take a mile" applies to mlcers.
Do not feel guilty about your boundaries. Sure, he wanted his birthday morning to do whatever, but that is his day to take care of the kids and he needs to do so.
Do not waiver from the boundaries you have set. Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
