I hear you SIAS- I guess I have gotten to a point where I just don't ask or question anymore because I have been so focused on detaching myself and of course his general demeanour which tells me his life is none of my business. I want to be with my H but know I don't need him. And while I want my family back together I had gotten to a point where when he is around I am friendly but understand we are not friends. As soon as he leaves the house it's NC unless about the kids.

I don't want to know about his life with OW. I think it's sick. So I ask very little. If it comes across as me not interested in his life the. It's just more of his same confusing behaviour that I don't want to be a part of. If he wants me to be part of his life he knows very well how to show me that.

Thanks little for your support. I hope the pre planning of support will help.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home