Time to roll up the sleeves

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I make compliments about her new clothes (rarely noticed or did this before), about her skills when talking about new careers, and her personality, also when appropriate about how good a mom she is.

My DB coach explained that men like to be thanked/appreciated where women like to be cared for. In complimenting about her appearance or skills, can you do it while showing concern/care? 'You're such a hard worker and I worry you're going to wear yourself out!' 'Let me get that for you, you look so nice I don't want your outfit messed up' - whatever, it's the complimenting w/ the added twist of showing care (for women).
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I was stuck in a 'thank you' 'thank you' rut. For men, she says I need to show appreciation while praising/stroking ego. 'Thank so much for helping, I never could have got that done without you!' (okay barf...) It's going to take some practice.

This makes a lot of sense and I guess it goes back to the 5ll. Personally from W I would prefer a thank you, and a stroke or kiss, and I will be honest would hope for much more physical contact, which in my mind became part of the problem. I would be doing things for this very reason. my W LL are not the same, I realise that now. Affection, appreciation, caring words and acts of service are hers. Yes some cross over but physical touch for me an W are seen differently. Issue I have is most of my W LL's are not easy to show to her as she has put up emotional and physical barriers.