After phone coaching session #2

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I would disregard IC's advice about the ultimatum. That's not a good idea. Here's what I recommend -- communicate with your MC ahead of time one-on-one. Discuss what you want to get out of the MC session and strategize on the best way to do that.

Don't walk into the MC session without stacking the deck. You want the MC prepped and fully on your agenda. To do otherwise is to take too big a chance and put too much faith in the MC.

The pitfall to avoid is to wear your heart on your sleeve in MC and say too much. You need to rebuild attraction and that requires some mystery. MC tends to kill that for the LBS by encouraging you to lay your heart out on the table.

MC can give you good communication tools, and can be an impartial mediator when discussing difficult topics. They can call one or both of you on your BS if you're being irrational.

I like DB Coach's approach of letting H air his feelings and get it off his chest and you just listen and absorb and don't defend or rebut. Either way, prep MC.