PoN & Tori- I made my first apptmt w a lawyer for 2 weeks from now for a consultation. And, I talked to a close former-co-worker/friend tonight & she gave me a name to call (of a L she used and really thought highly of). So, the ball is rolling...

jp, I really don't know exactly why I am so sure that a PA would be the last straw for me, as I agree the EA is so damaging in itself. I suppose if the PA happened first then maybe I wouldn't be saying the same thing.

I guess I've heard that if a man is already "in love" with a woman than the physical aspect of the R can really just "seal the deal" for them, as men tend to connect intimacy more with physicality and women tend to connect intimacy more with emotionality. I appreciate a guy's POV, jp.

This may or may not be true, but one of my H's LL is Physical, so... (And, he was always one to try to connect w me by being physical.)

Plus, my H (for whatever high more reason (LOL)) said he would "live as a M man," when he moved into his own aptmt. I think he intends to keep his R w OW an EA until he asks for a D (I know, this is mind-reading, but I think I'm pretty spot on with this).

When he first mentioned OW in BD he & I both spoke about if this becomes physical then our M would be over. We haven't spoken about it since, but I don't think either one of us has forgotten this.

Who knows, for all I know maybe it is already a PA and I've been a fool for months! (Again, I don't think so).

M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.