I just want him to understand, that if he is SOOO busy, I was just trying to help out.
Quit pursuing. You don't need to make him understand anything. Give him time and space and let him figure things out himself. YOU need to work on YOU.
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I dont understand why he is so testy these last 24 hours...
Detachment is all about removing yourself from his emotional highs and lows. Did you already forget my post that you copied from another thread and pasted here into your own?
Attached: H happy, you happy. H sad, you sad. H angry, you angry.
Detached: H happy, you happy. H sad, you happy. H angry, you happy.
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this must be detachment starting... H is soooooo busy (apparantly)
The very fact that you posted that 2nd sarcastic comment makes it very clear that you are NOT detached.
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but since we are in the same business, what could he be sooooooo busy about that I am not in the loop.
Yup, definitely not detached. You have just got to stop obsessing over every little thing your H says and does.
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This is bothering me, not knowing...
= NOT DETACHED
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but, part of me is also saying he's doing whatever...so whatev. Let it go.
But you clearly can't just "let it go", and that is because you are not detached.
Why am I hammering this point home? Because saying you're detached does not make you detached. You need to BE detached, not SAY you are. I wish you could step clear of your sitch and read your posts with an impartial bias, because if you could see how needy/ clingy/ codependent you're being then perhaps you'd realize how badly you need to break the cycle.
