Tough time last night-up from 1-4 AM thinking about all this stuff. I think the fact that the final date is coming is really hard on the emotions. I will add a section about this to the book. When I finally drifted off, I dreamt that my H was having a "family" dinner with the OW and her family. I was watching from a distance. This shows how bruised my ego is that he's having this R. I am aware it's my ego, but heck it's hard anyway.
I emailed him this AM to ask for the final account balances and said it was no coincidence that they're forecasting the worst weather of the week for tomorrow (court date.) It's going to be pouring and they even expect sleet. He replied I was right about the weather. I wonder if he really agrees or is doing the appeasing thing. I guess it doesn't matter.
So bottom line, even if you've been treated like crap and you know it's for the best to part ways with your spouse, divorce really really hurts.
Met with the L today-most stressful meeting of my life. I was drenched in sweat afterwards. He was arguing w me about the agreement and said he would refuse to sign it bc it was against his counsel. After an hour, he agreed to do it only if I signed a release so he would not be subject to lawsuits from my part.
I emailed my H and told him I needed reassurance he was going to do his part. He called and we talked about it. Then he brought up the issue of his "GF" not wanting him to have any contact w me. I said I would never let anyone control me that way but if he wanted to live his life that way, that was his problem. He said he didn't want to live that way, so he had to make a decision. I said okay, that I wasn't his mom to tell him what to do. This experience will be really good for his growth, I hope.
So I signed the papers. If he signs tomorrow, I will have to switch to calling him my XH. I can't wait for this to be over.
Then he brought up the issue of his "GF" not wanting him to have any contact w me. I said I would never let anyone control me that way but if he wanted to live his life that way, that was his problem. He said he didn't want to live that way, so he had to make a decision. I said okay, that I wasn't his mom to tell him what to do. This experience will be really good for his growth, I hope.
I love how you responded to this. Well done, I'm taking notes.
Originally Posted By: Tori
So I signed the papers. If he signs tomorrow, I will have to switch to calling him my XH. I can't wait for this to be over.
I know you are looking forward to a new and exciting life filled with love, but that you also will be mourning the loss of what you and H once had. I hope you have plenty of tissue on hand. I'll be thinking of you. (Hugs)
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Hi Tori I don't know what the time difference is but am thinking of you. Am sending you so much love and hugs ((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))you are amazing
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
You will be a stronger christian woman after this is all said and done. Realize that God has a plan for you and a ministry for you to lead and it all starts with a book.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
