Others (snodderly?) will have a good take on this. I can only have experience with my own sitch.
When H went away for two weeks in late October last year, he carefully scheduled his trip so as to be back by S13's birthday. (at which I cried so hard that we both missed the candles and singing part).
Meanwhile he was headed for D. No amount of reason could sway him. So...while he was gone on vacation he texted every day or several times per day and called a couple of times. Meanwhile, I was busy....not answering his texts immediately or some days not at all. One time (gladly) I was at a live local music concert (alone) and said "gotta go...they're starting the next set" and so on.
When he came back from vacation (can't believe some of the stuff -- alcohol mostly -- he put on FB) he said he was so sorry he never took us anywhere nice like that and we all got presents. But still headed for D (no wonder I felt so crazy!!)
I FELT in my heart he didn't want to get D and he sure didn't act like it. Showing up unexpectedly to see me for five minutes, asking me almost every week to go out to eat with him, etc. Not to mention his incredible hugs. Which I stopped giving back on my part eventually.
So....I'm just thinkin' your H wants to maintain connection with you. He enjoys you, (who wouldn't?) knows your there for him, loves you deep inside his heart, and maybe....just maybe....doesn't want to lose you? But has a ways to go yet?
Idk. This MLC thing is an enigma. I could be so off-base here.
Just fishin' for some answers for you...
rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
